This is a crazy thread.

What's it like in a Big Tech company these days?

This really nails it about the average Silicon Valley employee -

"They are fundamentally weak, often with no social support outside of work.

They're the people with no children, no spouse. Only a dog or cat for emotional support."

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@DrChris spousal unit works in big tech in Silicon Valley (one of the big 5). He’s been WFH since March 2020. He loves it and doesn’t care if he ever goes back to the office. Our kid loves having his dad at home, even if he’s working. (We’ve been doing homeschool since August 2020.)

I think I’m the only one that is getting tired of all this family togetherness. Sometimes all I want is to sit alone, somewhere quiet, and enjoy a cup of coffee lol.


Nobody is preventing you from leaving the house 9-5 😂

@DrChris our kid isn’t old enough to stay home unsupervised, and spouse’s work doesn’t really allow him to watch the kid. Spouse is supposed to be working alone behind a locked door.
I’ll get some time away soon, our apartment complex has a nice pool I can go sit near and some other areas that have nice places to sit and read.

Excellent summary of the lie that is "bring your whole self to work" and more. Fully agree opening up is risky, so I'm very selective about what I reveal, given I'm not a leftist dingbat. There's maybe two coworkers I've talked things like firearms with, one of which left last year. I certainly bring certain interests in occasionally, but it's the things that any leftist isn't going to be bothered by, like my music learnings.

I joined a professional development course my employer hosted last year that was taught by Thrivist. Firstly, the class used some interesting cult tactics like the made up name for the company as vocabulary. Second, so many of the lessons in the course were obvious to me. There were people commenting the equivalent of "yas queen" in lessons that I reacted to with "This isn't obvious to you?"

Half of it was guided introspection and understanding your own desires and interests. It was like a course for those with zero self-actualization, which is certainly useful for those who aren't as far on the path, but is was disconcerting hearing accounts from people more than a decade older than my 33 years (love referring to my age as the magic number) and they were acting like the whole course was an epiphany, when they could get the same with some introspection.

Honestly, I think most of the participants would have gotten more value from spending a fraction of the time they spent on the course just reading The Four Agreements book by Don Miguel Ruiz. That tiny book made a huge different in my own self-actualization journey and realizing how much I can affect my own destiny.

Granted, when I read that book I was taking a swordsmanship class from a friend that probably enhanced the effects, as he stressed personal responsibility to an impressive extent with lessons like: Everything is a choice, and even when you think an excuse is a reason, you still chose something in the end. You have to take responsibility for your actions, no one else can do that.


I’m the same. I keep a pretty clear line between work and my personal life - I’ve worked with people for over a decade and have no idea what their kid’s names are. I don’t friend any coworker on social media - I’m simply not interested.

Same here. The only times I tend to add coworkers on social media is after they or I leave the company. Granted, there are some great friendships I've developed that continued after working together, but that's most assuredly the exception rather than the norm.

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